You Should Be Proud

So, the other day I was thinking about how much of a rollercoaster the last year of my life has been. I’m about to turn 21 in a month and I had kind of a little ‘throw back’ in my head. I do that from time to time, especially around my birthday. It may sound weird to say since I have a pretty good life, but mostly I feel kind of sad when I look back on the last year. I always feel like I could have made it a better one, and all the plans and dreams I had mostly remain untouched. I know I’m the one to blame for that.

But this time, while overlooking the past year I felt different. To be honest, I was proud of myself and I felt like I really made progress during this year. Well actually, the last three months. Let’s say I needed a little warming up.. 😉 It’s actually kind of bad that we – or at least I, speaking for myself – are often not really satisfied with all that we’ve accomplished while looking back on a certain period of time. While actally, there were so many things we did great, which we don’t give ourselfs credit for.


Yes, I could be unsatisfied and make myself feel bad just because I still didn’t travel te world, I’m still not a famous musician and I am still not having the fancy filmjobs I aim for. But that would be nonsense. And normally, the ‘old Sofie’  would drag herself into this nonsense and make herself believe that it’s been a useles year. While in fact it was actually really productive and useful.

The key is – and I said it before – the way you accept yourself looking at the situation is the way you’ll believe it in the end. When I look back on my year there are countless new things I’ve learned:

  • Dealing with toxic people // Don’t except these in your life and let go.
  • Dealing with anxiety // Seeing a psychologist is nothing to be ashamed of. Get out there and do it just for you.
  • Stand for yourself // Surrounded by rude people? Toughen up and talk back. Cry in the car while driving home later. It’s okay 😉
  • Just ask // If you want things to be done, asking is the key. It’s not stupid, it’s actually super smart.
  • Accepting yourself // Because you are stuck with yourself for the rest of your life. So you better make it work.


Allright, this was personal but hopefully still fun to read 🙂 Remember to be proud of all you’ve accomplished, even about the smallest things we usually take for granted! 



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    June 5, 2016 at 5:41 am

    Love this. Very inspiring. Also love the layout of your blog very much 🙂

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      June 6, 2016 at 11:20 am

      Thanks! I really worked hard on the design! 🙂

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    June 5, 2016 at 10:27 pm

    This was such a sweet post, I really loved reading it! I can totally relate to feeling like I could’ve done more in the past year, but I’m also improving a lot from previous years too. I hope your upcoming 21st birthday is amazing!

    Angelina Is | Bloglovin’

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      June 6, 2016 at 11:19 am

      I’m glad you liked it and that it was relatable. It’s good to hear you are improving as well. Thank you for your kind words! X

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    June 6, 2016 at 10:24 am

    This is so inspiring. Love how the photos represent your words 🙂

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    June 7, 2016 at 7:44 am

    From this post I can conclude that you’re getting more mature dear, I like your wise words, and yeah, accepting ourself is the ultimate key to enjoy the world. Have a great day dear ( and prepare for your upcoming birthday perhaps ) . 🙂


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      June 8, 2016 at 7:36 pm

      Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it. I never really celebrate my birthday but maybe this year everything will be different 😉

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    June 8, 2016 at 9:06 pm

    Great how you overthink everything 😉
    And remember, a year never is useless 😉 we always achieve some goals we didn’t aim for and you will be gratefull for those achievements later 😉


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    June 9, 2016 at 7:09 am

    Je maakt zeker een punt. Ik denk dat als vrouw je blijft iedere keer weer onzeker en veel persoonlijke issue waar je ook mee blijft omgaan. Wanneer je lekker in je vel zit dan is het makkelijker.

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    June 9, 2016 at 3:16 pm

    Ik denk ook vaak na over het afgelopen jaar als ik bijna jarig ben. Soms vind ik het ook wel een beetje vervelend om ouder te worden, omdat je dan soms inderdaad denkt van: hmm, wat ik heb nu eigenlijk bereikt dit jaar? Maar uiteindelijk gaat het erom dat je toch jezelf accepteert en niet alleen focust op wat niet lukte, maar juist op wat wel lukte.

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    June 9, 2016 at 5:50 pm

    I think you brought up some great points here, girlie! We do tend to focus on what we didn’t accomplish or what we failed at more than what we have done and all the successes. I think it’s so important for us to stop and think about how far we’ve come and how much we’ve grown. Only then can we acknowledge and address the areas in our life that we need to gradually improve. Thanks so much for sharing, you look absolutely beautiful in these pics, I love that skirt!



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      June 13, 2016 at 4:23 pm

      You really made a point, when we stop focussing on all the negative thoughts there’s more space for the things that really matter and really need improvement. Have a great week! <3

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    June 11, 2016 at 5:53 pm

    I think it’s very nice to be proud of yourself, when you feel that you are doing well, and I totally agree with you – toxic people are not OK, rude people and so on. I have a very toxic friend that I am trying for years to get rid of. She is really so rude, and she always points out that she is polite, but in fact, she is not. I hope I can also say that I am proud of myself when I finally can tell her – leave me in peace 🙂 But it is so difficult to cut strings, especially when you know that the person will offend you again… I am just postponing that 🙂 Hope you have a very nice weekend!

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      June 13, 2016 at 4:25 pm

      You told me before about that friend. It’s sad to hear that she’s been in your life for years already. Come on girl, you can end this the right way. I always try to kill ’em with kindness 😉 That way there won’t be a reason for them to offend you again. You can do it! x

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    Maria | Looking Glass
    June 18, 2016 at 8:35 pm

    Great read! I’m pretty shy and I often have trouble being completely honest and sharing my concerns especially when it comes to rude and toxic people, but I think I’m getting better at it. Happy early birthday! xx

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