It’s Not How Good You Are

It’s how good you want to be.

In my opinion finding peace is the most valuable thing. I’m talking about finding peace with yourself. Personally I’ve been in a lot of conflicts with myself – which is normal – over the last 20 years, but for some reason I think it’s save to say that I ‘found my peace’ for now. How did I get there and what can you do to be more confortable and happy in your own skin?


Indicision can really make you go insane. I am the living example of that. I’ve been concidering things over and over again, some of them where worth it but most of them really weren’t. Being in constant doubt and worry about whatever you have to decide literally hurts you mentally but in most cases also physically. I’ve had so many appointments at the docter about all kinds of physical things I couldn’t declare because I was in constant doubt about something. Once I decided to let it go all of my pysical complaints vanished with the wind.


Don’t rely 

ON ANYTHING OR ANYONE. I know it’s sometimes really handy to have something or someone taking care of things for you. But in the same time, without you sometimes being aware of it, you are relying on something/someone. And let me get this straight, you shouldn’t want that in any case. It won’t do your confidence any good and once this thing/this person decides to let you fall you are all alone. Make sure you handle your own things and that you are in the position to take care of yourself.


If you are, for example, surrounded by people who really make you exhausted and don’t do your energy-level any good you better let go of them. Are they family? Find yourself new excited hobbies or other things to do. This way you are out of the house more often and you keep challenging yourself. If you are in a unhealthy relationship but you haven’t found the courage to end it yet, just remember it’s okay to love yourself a little bit more then your partner and that it’s never selfish to end something you don’t feel happy in.


Do What You Love

I’ve been wanting to start a blog again for the longest time, as some of you may know I’ve been blogging before for quite a while but I couldn’t find time for it anymore. Over the past two years the urge to start a blog again has been haunting me but for some reason I never really picked it up again. Why? Because I was stuck. Stuck with people I didn’t want to be with, stuck in a place I didn’t want to be at anymore and stuck with questions which I couldn’t find an answer for. Until the day came I slowly started living the life I wanted myself and, among other things, in less than two weeks I had this domain, blog, design and everything around it built and ready to go.

Content Is King

If you have something to say which is valuable in your eyes you should say it. Negative opinions of other people? You don’t hear them. People who try to bring you down? You don’t even notice. Some say that your ideas are worthles? I don’t think they can come up with something better. The key is, once you’ve got a plan and a vision which is valuable and brings you further you should speak up. You don’t need no flashing signs, a brand new outfit or a well known name to say what you want to say. When your message is clear and it’s straight from the heart you can be oh, so confident about it.


There you go, another picture of me. Cracking up about something that’s probably not even funny. But al least I’m laughing right. 😉

I hope you all have a great week ahead  and found this somehow helpful. Have you seen the new mailing list in the sidebar? Once you’ve subscribed you get an email everytime I write a new post!




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  • Reply
    Richel V.
    June 1, 2016 at 9:31 am

    “It’s not how good you are, it’s how good you want to be.” YES. Thank you for sharing this. It’s a really good read!

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      June 3, 2016 at 10:12 pm

      You are more than welcome! 🙂 x

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    June 2, 2016 at 3:34 pm

    I loved this post, it’s exactly what I have been thinking about toxic people… I have a “frenemy” – friend she is not, although she says so – who is always insulting me somehow, and then she says “I only meant this in a good way”. No, I know it’s not like that and I try and try to get rid of her, for so many years, and end up giving another chance. But you are so right, they consume our energy. Also, being indecisive is a burden as well. Your post is so eye opening!

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      June 3, 2016 at 10:11 pm

      Mostly we end up giving chance after chance, but sometimes it’s – like I wrote – important to remember to love yourself a little bit more and know that that’s okay. I really hope you are able to deal with you ‘frenemy’ soon. Good luck and thanks for your kind words! X

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    June 2, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    These kind of posts are great, nice hearing your thoughts!

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    June 2, 2016 at 7:31 pm

    This is such a wonderful post, girlie! You look absolutely beautiful, I love your outfit, as well as your sound advice. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that we’re happy with who we are and what we are doing! Thanks so much for sharing and I hope you’re having a great week so far!



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      June 3, 2016 at 10:08 pm

      Thank you so much and I totally agree with you! Have a wonderful week ahead! X

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    June 3, 2016 at 7:49 am

    This is such a great post Sofie and completely agree with everything you have said. I am often so indecisive and it drives me crazy overthinking everything. I definitely need to try and just make a decision and stick with it without going over and over it again wondering if I have done the right thing. x

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      June 3, 2016 at 10:07 pm

      I am glad you found it helpful! I totally get you about the overthinking, it remains hard sometimes. Good luck! X

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    Bola Adekile
    June 3, 2016 at 8:44 pm

    Spot on, inner peace is vital to our overall wellbeing. Beautiful post and pictures.

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      June 3, 2016 at 10:13 pm

      Thanks a lot! 🙂

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    Kyia Belle
    July 19, 2016 at 4:48 pm

    I could relate to what you wrote! I often notice myself falling into this “trap” where I feel like my blog isn’t good enough, my photos aren’t like hers; I simply need to focus more on how I can develop more my style into my content, less into what it looks like to other people. I could have a set blogging schedule, but right now, posting whenever works for me- and that’s all that matters 🙂 xx

    Kyia at WANDERLUSTGIRL// lifestyle & beauty

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