The world around us can be a bit overwhelming and hysterical sometimes. There are so many things happening around us and the pressure to become better everyday is noticeable all around us. Going back to the base is important from time to time. And with back to the base I mean taking a step back and cutting yourself from all the extern ‘neon lights’ surrounding us, that want our attention. Going back to your inner voice and skip the drama. That’s not always easy so I thought I’d share a few tips that might be helpful!
Out For A Walk
That’s right, surround yourself with nature or walk a few blocks around town. I’ve been out in the woods a lot more lately and I have to say I always end up doing at least one of these two things: 1. Daydreaming, thinking about absolutely nothing that makes sense and enjoying it to the max. Or, 2: Overthinking literaly everything. Why did they say that to me? Where am I actually going with my life? Do I need to change things up? I give everything a spin and end up walking around slowly with a big frown on my face. It doesn’t sound like a peaceful hike but at least it was productive…
Do you know what it is? When you’re in a certain situation where you get asked to do or say things, about something you don’t know anything about? Right, it makes you restless and stressed out. To me, it’s the same with the brain. Once you’re in a period of time where everything just isn’t going right and you feel like you can’t handle it, educate yourself. Knowlegde is power, I’ve said it before but knowing why you handle the way you handle or think what you think can be a reassurance for your brain/mind. You get why you feel a certain way and it may help you placing it.
Fictive And Irrational
There are such things like fictive fears or irrational thoughts that bring us absolutely nothing but still play in the back of our minds. Why they are there is a question to me as well. If you ask me I think it’s because the brain is just keeping itself bussy and partly it’s a combination of personality and paterns of thinking… Along with: Self-esteem, self-confidence and self-acceptence. I’m kind of guessing here. But the key is, you’ve got to make sure you notice it when you are irrational thinking or paying attention to fictive fears. That way you don’t give energy to things that won’t do us any favour. Quick tip: write the thought or fear down on a paper, once you look at it black ‘n white you are more likely to see it’s not worth your time.
Turn off the phone, put on your favorite music, spa night, Netflix, baking for hours in the kitchen. I don’t care what it is that you’re doing that makes your brain go stand-by. Nothing is useles, nothing is stupid. If running around outside in the pouring rain gives you joy you better do it. It’s important we do – what we would call – “useless” things. It’s actually stupid these things feel useless to us because they can not be missed in our lives. For example, I like going through all my lipsticks from time to time and picking up new cactuses for my room. Oh, so useless, but oh, so important.
It’s okay to not have a plan. I always felt so stressed out by the fact that I would graduate so fast and that I didn’t have my life planned out. While others were talking about all the things they had in mind for the future and their careers. I was mostly just sitting there, sipping my water, nodding my head, trying to smile while thinking: “Oh my God, this is it. I’ll probably end up on the street.” But hey, if you’re living you learn right. So nowadays I don’t really listen to the stories of others and try to focus on my own life. Beside that, I think it’s way better to NOT have it all planned out. Of course, partly. But you’ve got to stay openminded. If you’re not coloring outside the lines and always stick to the plan you’re missing out on the real good stuff!
Okay so I think you’ve seen enough pictures of me posing at a lake. 😉 I hope this was useful, this article has taken me a long time to write for some reason so I hope you enjoy it!